There was a time in my life...long ago...when I was in a very long relationship with a guy. I was in love and he was a bit off. Always in trouble, blah blah blah. He was probably just a spoiled brat...now that I look back, that's exactly what it was. Spoiled brat with no boundaries = adolescent with a drug problem, getting arrested often, very threatening to me as time went on. Drugs are an amazing thing in the personality change department. He's been in and out of Huntsville...joy.
Anyway. As I was assisting Mark and his repair of the pipe on the side of the house, yesterday, I had a flash of one day in 1996. I was drove up to this person's house to visit for a few minutes. He and his dad were outside, his dad working on this person's truck. I immediately asked why he wasn't doing it. He looked at me and said that he had no idea how to do that stuff. I was baffled. Standing there staring at him for a few minutes...I couldn't believe it. Were there actually guys that didn't know how to work on cars? Again with the naivety. My confusion turned to disgust. I thought...'seriously? What the hell? I just replaced the transmission filter and pan (my dad handed me the box of new parts and pointed to under the car...set me loose on it), changed my own oil, helped drop the gas tank to empty the sludge out of it, in my own car! And you can't change a battery?!"
We weren't together much longer. Not because of this situation, there were plenty of contributors to the deterioration of our relationship. We were certainly not on the same plane of intelligence and mental capacity for ANYTHING! I began to realize that when he would accuse me of using "college words" when I spoke to him. Oh dear...bless his heart...hahaha!
Thinking back to that moment when I realized that this person has no capability to be the man I expected him to be, I knew I needed more. I needed what I saw as a real man!
I needed a man who already knew how to do anything or could figure it out or knew where to look to find out how to do it. It drives me nuts when I am presented with a person who is clueless about something and has no clue how to find the information about it.
I credit my parents for all of this. From the time I could read a bit, I was told to "go look it up" by my mom and my dad usually would explain things to me in very technical detail. For those who know Mark, know...YEAH, so I married my dad!! Big whoop! Wanna fight about it?! HAHAHA! Who would be a more perfect mate? My dad is an awesome person. Anyway, Mark does this to people. The very detailed technical explanation. He can't help it. But it really attracted me to him. This man is probably the smartest person I have ever met...aside from myself. HA! Many have said this about him.
Sure he is twelve years older than me. But he has a fab emotional immaturity that helps to keep him young. I knew from the beginning that he was good at everything he has done and will do. When he fails at something, he will keep trying, because failure is not an option.
Who wouldn't be attracted to that, over a person who has no idea about ANYTHING?!
A Bee-otch once said that he's handy to have around. She wasn't lying...a big change for her...but telling truth all the same. HA!
I'm glad to have my handy guy to be my perfect definition of a "real man".
I praise my deity that our soulmate status was maintained, that we could return to each other again, because we needed each other. We NEED to be with each other, to maintain the level that we are at together.
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